FATHERS DAY

Fathers day is here at least in Canada. In Germany it was a couple of weeks ago I think. Either way there are dues that need to be paid. My relationship with my dad is complicated to say the least. He is not perfect and never has been. I can see all his flaws just as much as his strengths. However it is one of the relationships I truly appreciate, am thankful for and hold dear.

What is a Father exactly? Through out the years and through out cultures the role of a father has changed. As I grew up I learned there was a difference between being a father and being a dad. I’ve seen many types of “fathers” or “dads”. One mayor difference I learned is that it doesn’t take a lot to be a father but to be a dad requires an active multi-role in someones life. What do I mean by that?

When looking up the word father in a dictionary. You will get multiple answers. My favourite is: “be the source or originator of.” I believe this is the most accurate.

Yet when I think of the word dad the dictionary does not do it justice. When I think of dad the following attributions come to mind: love, effort, time, attention, protection, dedication, honesty, support, consistency, patience, etc. etc. A dad has a presence in their children’s life. He makes an impact everyday that helps shape who one becomes. He wants what’s best for his children, he understands what love is and is one of the first persons who teach his children what true love is.

I see my dad try to step up to be a better dad each time. He has raised me, taught me and pushed me to grow. When I told him about the topics of my blog he was quick to try to protect me. He told me: ” Are you sure? Those topics can be controversial. You may get some negativity, why don’t you try to write about something less controversial? More safe.”

However, he has always taught me to go after my dreams and to think about my actions, my beliefs and life. So instead of just saying okay, I went on to explain the reasons I had chosen Immigration and Wellness. His response immediately changed to one of support. He told me to be careful but that my voice was important, that if I truly wanted to do those topics to do it well and to send him the link so he could read it. His tone changed from protectiveness and skepticism to one of support, protection, and love. He had the patience to listen and try to understand where I was coming from.

Throwback to my High School Graduation

He has surprised me in how he has grown and stepped up when I least expected him to. When I struggled with depression and anxiety, I thought he would be the last to understand. And yet he was the first to understand, hear me, see me and show me love. He didn’t question the doctors instead he showed up everyday. He made time and even if it was new territory for him his main goal was to make me understand I was loved, that I could keep going and that I was not alone.

He has taught me that kindness should be given to people just because they are humans. But to also stand up for myself and not to be a doormat. He has taught me that respect needs to be earn each time. He has taught me that every action has consequences. That one needs to own up to their mistakes and to take responsibility. He has taught me that there is always a way, that there will always be a choice. He has taught me that what you did in the past does not excuse what you are doing now. He has taught me that actions and words leave marks. He has taught me that sometimes you have to give up something in order to get something better. He has taught me that it is better to be alone than with bad company. He has taught me the importance of choosing a good partner and a good dad for my children. He has taught me that family is important and that there needs to be unity because we are meant to protect each other. He has taught me that even if you are family that does not give you a free pass to treat each other badly and expect the other to suck it up. He has taught me to be honest. He has taught me that I am valuable and therefore deserve to be treated correctly. He has taught me to ask and work for what I want. He has taught me to laugh when things are hard. He has taught me that it’s okay to fall down, it’s about getting back up whether with the help of someone or by myself. He has taught me that material things don’t make up for the failures at home. He has taught me that material things are nice but they are temporary. Meanwhile love is something we are lucky to have and we should cherish it and take care of it or it will die.

It’s easy to be a father but it takes a special kind of person to become a dad.

Thanks dad for everything. Thank you for reading this. I’m lucky to have you.

If your dad is in your life my best recommendation for a gift would be to give him 5 minutes of your day to make one memory with him. One you can cherish and one that allows him to feel your love.

xxx

Adriana

FATHERS DAY GIFTS IDEAS

Thanks to Instagram, I just found out it is fathers day this weekend! Did you know? Well let me tell you I was completely clueless.

You know so many people say it is so hard to shop for women … but really don’t you think it is so hard to shop for men? Let me tell you about my situation, starting with my father. You know how many gifts I got him and he never used? You know how many times I buy Brandon gifts and he is just not impressed. Well, always pretty much. So for all of us stressed out thinking what should I get?? Also, for all of us who are told, I don’t need or want anything. This is for you!

How many of you are currently subscribed to monthly boxes? It seems like so much fun! I put together some of my favorite monthly boxes for men and you can use them as a fathers day gift!

The Nomadik Subscription Box

A new adventure each month. Each month, get a hand-picked selection of the latest + greatest outdoor products.

Basic MAN

Get a brand new set of premium quality t-shirts, socks and boxer-briefs every month. These aren’t your average department store basics. Expect Quality. Basic Man shirts are made with extremely soft cotton that is blended with poly to give them a comfortable yet durable stretch. They’re also pretreated so they won’t shrink. Their underwear contains 95% modal, which has a silky soft feel that will hold goods in place. It’s antimicrobial and moisture-wicking to help him goodbye to swamp butt. The socks are hands down the comfiest socks in the world. He deserves this!

Escape the Crate

Find the clues, Crack the codes, Unravel the riddles, Solve the mysteries, Escape the Crate. Escape-the-room games are one of the fastest growing sensations in America! You are trapped in a room with your friends, family, or co-workers and the only way to escape is by solving riddles, cracking codes, and discovering secret objects. Now he can bring all of the fun of an escape room into his own home…with a different adventure delivered every other month. Imagine escaping from a pirate ship, unraveling alien languages, solving murder mysteries, and defusing time bombs all from your own living room. All for the price of of just one person’s ticket at a regular escape room.

Finders Seekers Mysteries

A thrilling MYSTERY DELIVERED TO his DOOR. Receive a curious package every month that initiates a fun and challenging ‘Find. Explore world cultures solving puzzles, decoding cryptic messages and discovering underground societies.

Crush Crate

A monthly subscription box overflowing with awesome stuff to help him get to the gym and crush your bodybuilding goals! He’ll receive a variety of high protein snacks, supplements, beverages, workout routines and more delivered to his door every month. Each box is specially curated to fit his bodybuilding goals whether it is gaining muscle or shedding body fat.

Freestone Fly Fishing Company

Their fly fishing subscriptions supply an assortment of premium flies, an informative Fly Guide, bonus gear items, wicked stickers, and a 1-year subscription to Trout Unlimited. Best yet, free shipping!

All He Loves Box

Is he bored with the same old stuff at the mall? Is he interested in premium gear, quality electronics & interesting gadgets? All He Loves box is filled with unique & practical products that all guys love. No more spending hours online searching for cool stuff. No more using ordinary products when he can have extraordinary. All He Loves aims to upgrade your lifestyle … one month at a time!

Barrel & Blade – Monthly Tactical Subscription Box

An awesome assortment of some of the best tractical, survival, and EDC gear on the market. No samples here! Not only do they scour the world for the hottest trending gear for you each month, they also consult with some of the nation’s foremost authorities on hunting, survival, marksmanship, police, and military.

Victory Box

Victory Box is the premier monthly men’s accessory subscription box. Receive free accessories when subscribing for a quarterly or annual term. Victory Boxes include three to four ties, socks, tie clips, lapel pins, grooming products, bracelets, and more.

All these ideas are super fun and in different price ranges. All for different personalities. I hope one of them fits the fathers in your life. If you do order some make sure to comment below and let me know your thoughts.

THEY SAY DISTANCE MAKES THE HEART GROW FONDER

Who knew you could have so many emotions at once? This year as I’m settling in my third home I’m experiencing new and old emotions all at once. Here is a secret not so secret about immigrating: You will never have a complete 💓. This may sound funny. As humans the heart is a biologically organ that is stuck inside your ribcage and is vital to keep on living. It truly is an interesting organ. Humans as a whole are interesting. But the point is that you may have it as a whole organ inside your ribcage and it will still be in pieces. What do I mean by that?

I mean that as you adapt to your new home your heart won’t ever be completely in one piece as you yearn for things that you will not be able to find from your old home. And when you go to your old home it will never again be one in your old home as you miss things from your new home. It’s a blessing and a curse all at once. Because you get to experience new things and through it you get to grow as a person.

The consequence is your heart will never again be just one. You will love both places fiercely perhaps like a parent who loves both their children. The parent loves both of them and as they grow, they get to know their similarities, differences, advantages, disadvantages and accepts their faults in each. In the end the parent loves the children all the same.

One of the advantages that I’m so blessed with that I have now as I immigrate is technology. I’m able to call my birth family and my friends. See their faces in real time. This was not the case as when I first immigrated. It helps me keep my relationships and at the same time it hurts.

Today I was so happy to be able to witness the growth of my nephew and at the same time I was so terribly sad to not be able to be there in person. To give him a hug and a kiss. What did he do?

Well hold your breath ladies and gentlemen. He pointed at the phone and said my name for the first time. Yes, hold your tears. As an aunt that was one of the best moments in my life and it was possible because of technology. I do have to be honest, I couldn’t stop smiling and yes I cried when I hanged up both of happiness and of longing. I haven’t been able to hold him now for 6 long months. I know it may not seem like a lot but in baby development that’s huge. When he was born I was about to move. I had the privilege to help take care of him for a month. Let me tell you when I left I was so glad to be able to sleep in but so sad because I knew everything I was giving up. I missed his first birthday. I missed his first christmas. Just like I’ve missed the first 3 christmas of my niece.

It’s not the first time I experience that and it surely won’t be the last. I was grateful in that moment for my husband. He came and hugged me and celebrated the fact my nephew recognizes my voice and knows my name even with sooo much physical distance. He made me laugh while crying. And I remember quickly how my heart is also here.  

And just like that my heart experience so many emotions that are opposites and it was split being in Canada and being in Germany.

Then I look at these pictures and treasure them and I’m back in Guatemala on my wedding day holding some of the most important people in my life… and life goes on. That’s another day in my integration process.

xx

Adriana

TOUCH YOUR HEART

A romance between a lawyer and a top actress, whose life goes downhill after becoming caught up in a scandal with a third generation chaebol. She fakes her position to become the lawyer’s secretary in order to star in a famous writer’s drama.

Watch it on VIKI.

Audtio Korean – Sub English

Why are we loving it?

Can a K-Drama get any cuter?! I love all the office romance! The main character Oh Yoon-seo is so cute! I love how funny and silly she is. This show has me totally addicted.

LOVE

ELA

XXX

ALTA MAR – HIGH SEAS

Two sisters discover disturbing family secrets after a string of mysterious deaths occur on a luxury ship traveling from Spain to Brazil in the 1940s.

Watch it on Netflix

Spanish Audio – English Subtitles

Why are we loving it?

So many actors who I have fallen in love in other Telenovelas participate. The fashion, hair and make up are so inspiring! I always love when the women are the protagonist. She is strong, capable and beautiful. – Ela

Love

Ela

xxx

TELENOVELAS

So, what is a Telenovela?

I guess you can just translate it as a Soap Opera.

Telenovelas are the Spanish and Latin American Versions of Soap Operas. Every country has it’s own way to do it. There are Telenovelas for everyone. Yes, including children’s Telenovelas.

Were you one of those little girls who was not allowed to watch Telenovelas? Well, we were.

Our mother used to watch them always, but we were not allowed to be in the room. Sometimes when we slept over at our grandmothers, they would allow us to watch it with them in secret.

Luckily we are all grown up now. And we can watch all the Telenovelas our heart desires!

NEW BEGGININGS

I find footprints on sand a beautiful thing. It may just be that it reminds me of all the imprints that have been left on my heart.

I immigrated twice in my life now. Once as a preteen to Canada and now as an adult to Germany. Both times as a woman. When moving to Germany I thought: “Oh well. I’ve done it once and succeed at it. I can do it again.”

That was about a year ago. Had you asked me a year ago whether I was worried or anything I would have laughed and said I’ve done it once, I’ll do it again. Now a days if you ask me how it is coming along I will tell you I’m blessed in so many ways and at the same time I cry at least once a month if not more because of how difficult I sometimes find it.

As a kid I learned the language in 6 months by being immersed in it. As an adult after a year into being “immersed” in the language, I’m halfway through what is considered proficient. I’ll let you laugh while you realized that life truly hit me with a curveball there and by own making.

This experience has really helped me grow. As a child I found it quite easy to integrate into a new culture. Everyone I meet my age was interested in learning where I came from, why I looked different, why I did things a certain way and was willing to help me learn the language. They were willing to take me into their circle of friends quite readily. It was an interesting experience as I truly didn’t understand why suddenly it seemed people were interested in me. You know as children, making friends sometimes is as easy as having the confidence of saying: “Hey! I’m xxx. Let’s be friends.”

Then you hit your teenage years and you are pretty set in your ways and circles. But you still find things to bond over. I mean you are stuck in a school for most of your day and in order to survive you find someone to laugh with. This makes for solid friendships. Those friendships where you can look back and laugh at your old days.

So I never truly understood why my parents were having such a hard time in finding new friends and integrating as well as we did. Now as an adult moving to a new country it felt like a lightbulb went on. I’m quite younger than the age my parents were when they moved and yet I feel for them now. It has helped me view their life in a more understanding way.

Right now I’m not in University anymore which means I’m not in a classroom with people with the same interests or still willing to try new experiences. I’m at an age were half my age group is either still in University specializing in their careers or they are focusing on building their careers or building and balancing families and therefore don’t have much time to spare. I get it. I have some of the same goals.

So should I just give up? I can tell you it’s hard but not impossible. It’s like when a turtle just hatches and has to go to the ocean. The odds are not in their favour and yet they all try to get into the water.

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So what do I do to learn and integrate? Tun in next week to find out.

After all don’t you want to find out more to understand the process and how it has changed me?

xx

Adriana